After Rebirth, the Celebrity Daughter is the Medical Expert!-Chapter 518 - 402: Second Update (Part 3)

Xiaoshi fell into deep thought.

After a while, she asked back, "Mr. Ning, is it because I don’t know how to love myself that I’ve never met anyone who truly loves me since I was a child?"

Ning Youguang said, "That’s because our minds have a natural defense mechanism. Once we deliberately suppress certain traits, we attract people who more easily exhibit those traits, allowing us to see reflections of ourselves in them. From a psychological perspective, for someone to receive love from others, they must first establish self-love. If they only disguise their appearance and don’t pay attention to their inner world, the people they attract will be those who are also accustomed to disguising themselves."

"How should I recognize such projections, and how can I break out of this vicious cycle?" Xiaoshi felt this was a long-standing issue troubling her. "I want to have a healthy intimate relationship."

"Projection at the self-level is very easy to recognize. If we merely ’feel’ the existence of someone or something, it usually doesn’t carry our projection. If we’re affected by someone or something, then they’re likely carrying our projection. The shortcomings we see in others are almost always projections of our own inner shortcomings," Ning Youguang said. "As long as we acknowledge and accept certain negative traits in our hearts, those traits in others won’t affect us, and only then can we genuinely interact with others."

"You mean, all the traits we see in others also exist within ourselves," Xiaoshi said. "I often criticize others because, in reality, I like to criticize myself?"

"Yes." Ning Youguang smiled and said, "Treat others as you treat yourself. Once you can forgive and accept yourself, you’ll naturally be able to forgive and accept others. If you’re willing to open your heart, to truly look at yourself and accept yourself, you’ll fall in love with yourself and become calm and poised. Moreover, you’ll be able to share love with others. This positive cycle, once it starts, will change not only your own life but also your interaction patterns with others."

Xiaoshi’s face displayed an uncontrollable smile. "So, if I want a healthy intimate relationship, I need to guide my behavior, neither deliberately suppressing myself nor deliberately denying myself. This way, I can turn flaws into advantages, right?"

"Yes," Ning Youguang praised Xiaoshi. "You understood very well."

"Ah, I get it now," Xiaoshi said excitedly. "Just like you said in the book, ’Acknowledging and accepting one’s imperfect self is very important for having a complete life.’"

"We must forgive our imperfections, because imperfection is inherently a part of human nature. Once we gain a new understanding of the relationship between our inner world and the outer world, we can use that understanding to guide our lives, rediscovering those traits we’ve tried to hide," Ning Youguang said, pleased that Xiaoshi thoroughly understood. "Once we burst those bubbles of false beliefs in our minds, recognize the true nature of our inner world, face the dark side of ourselves and all our shortcomings, we then realize the positive meaning of these ’shortcomings.’ Your life will undergo a dramatic transformation."

Xiaoshi became more and more excited. "I must learn to acknowledge myself, accept myself, and be my own friend, no matter how long this takes!"

In short, she couldn’t wait to see her future after transformation.

The time spent in heartfelt communication always passes quickly.

On this day, Xiaoshi lingered at Ning Youguang’s side from morning at the National University of Science and Technology until the sun set.

Noon.

Ning Youguang took her to "Xiao Siji" on the snack street outside the campus of the National University of Science and Technology for a simple meal.

"Thank you, Mr. Ning, for your guidance and help today."

Standing at the door of Ning Youguang’s office, Xiaoshi hugged Ning Youguang for the third time.

"You’re welcome," Ning Youguang replied with a gentle smile. "The most important thanks go to the brave Xiaoshi, who is willing to face and change herself."

Xiaoshi laughed at her words. "Thank you, brave Xiaoshi."

Saying this, she couldn’t help but feel a bit shy, but undeniably, she was happy.

Her heart told her—"She likes being loved by herself."

Ning Youguang kindly escorted Xiaoshi downstairs.

"I know, after you go back, you’ll inevitably go through a period of adjustment towards the life you want to truly change, but keep persisting, and you’ll surely succeed. I’ve helped countless clients like you."

Her warm gaze fell on Xiaoshi’s face. "No matter how tough this process is, I’ll always be here for you."

Xiaoshi’s eyes reddened again. "I’m so lucky to have met Mr. Ning."

Ning Youguang smiled gently and patiently reminded her.

"After you get home, remember to stand in front of the mirror every day, tell your reflection, ’I am... I am very...’ Repeat each positive trait enough times until you no longer feel an emotional fluctuation."

That day, at 8 PM, on Weibo.

[An ordinary person: The fifth hexagram of "The Book of Changes", "Xu Hexagram", says: ’There is sincerity, brightness thrives, persistence brings good fortune.’ It means that only when we have enough courage to face objective truths, without self-deception or being swayed by illusions, can we identify the right direction to move forward, achieve prosperity, and obtain good results.——This is the true essence of exploring the shadows of the mind.]

[An ordinary person: When we refrain from rash judgments about ourselves and others, we naturally embrace inner peace. Wish you well! @Seventy-two Guest Rooms Courtyard: Teacher, in this restless era, how can we achieve peace of mind?]

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On this day.

Ming Jinxin invited Ning Youguang to have dinner at home.

As she exited the elevator and walked towards the Ning family door, she heard a lyrical cello melody flowing gently within—it’s "The Swan," beautiful and tender.

Soon, she pressed the doorbell, and a worker inside opened the door.

She immediately saw Ning Youyu, dressed in a pristine white shirt, black suspenders, and a pair of brand new black kidskin shoes, sitting elegantly like a little prince playing the cello by the dining chair.

The sense of ritual was perfect.

Seeing this scene, she didn’t rush inside but lazily leaned against the door and started taking pictures with her phone.

Within the house, Ning Youyu glanced up at her, his fair face breaking into a bright smile.

His hands skillfully playing the cello without missing a beat.

Ming Jinxin, dressed in soft fabrics, sat on the sofa sipping tea.

"The weather was fine this morning, and suddenly it started raining." Seeing Ning Youguang arrive, she smiled brightly. "You didn’t get wet, did you?"

"No," Ning Youguang laughed. "I drove here, just got caught in some traffic."

"Traffic jams can be really annoying," Ming Jinxin said. "Come in quickly, it’s cold outside."

Ning Youguang entered, handing her bag to a worker, then took off her coat and bent to remove her long black boots, changing into new fluffy lotus pink slippers.

"Newly bought, nice, aren’t they?" Ming Jinxin noticed her gaze falling on the slippers and asked with a smile.

"Nice," Ning Youguang felt the slippers were quite comfortable. "Very comfortable."

"Should I get you a couple more pairs?" Ming Jinxin asked.

"No need," Ning Youguang quickly shook her head. "They take up space."

"You can leave them in the library, you’ll be comfortable wearing them when you visit," Ming Jinxin replied. 1314