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"Basically, to achieve the purpose of relieving one's mood, it's still necessary to consider personal interests."

Tian Yu thought for a moment and said.

"Like you, for example, as a surgeon, what can stimulate you and give you immense satisfaction is certainly completing a high-difficulty surgery."

"Moreover, you seem quite spirited today. Did you complete one? Can you tell me about it? I'm actually quite curious about surgeons."

"Actually, it's nothing much, not any new kind of surgery. It was quite simple, just my first time performing it." Liu Banxia said a bit embarrassed.

He was somewhat impressed with Tian Yu; she was quite perceptive. Even though he said so, in his heart, he felt confident and anticipated about the future NOSES procedure.

"What hobbies does your wife have?" Tian Yu asked again.

"She used to enjoy going out and playing, hanging out with her girlfriends, shopping, that sort of thing. Now that she's pregnant, she's being very cautious." Liu Banxia replied.

"Do you think it's okay if I buy her some toys? After all, she loves playing, maybe some Lego kits, the kind that she can put together herself."

"Actually, that's fine. Pregnant women need to take care, but there's no need to overdo it." Tian Yu laughed and said.

"Just like those two former patients you mentioned, if they keep the balance, their lives can be very fulfilling. They can complement each other, meeting needs without conflict."

"Take your wife, for instance. Her personality is quite independent, quite strong-willed. People like that can be hard to approach, but if she truly accepts someone, she treats them as her own, with little defensive guard."

"She loves taking care of the house's dog, which is actually an anticipation and projection of future life. Once your child is born, she will take care of them, too."

"At that time, you need to be aware that taking care of a baby is exhausting. No matter how well-behaved, they can reverse day and night. You have two at home, one cries and then the other one will follow."

"I'll offer some advice; have the two little ones sleep together in the future. Their physical memory is about being together, even if they're unaware of things, they'll find comfort with a constant companion."

"Is there such a saying?" Liu Banxia asked curiously.

"Of course there is." Tian Yu said with a smile.

"That's why when these two little ones sleep on the same bed, it's best not to separate them; let their little arms or legs touch each other more for comfort, it'll make things easier for both of you."

Liu Banxia nodded, knowing this must be remembered.

When the baby comes, it's what concerns Liu Banxia the most. Prenatal depression, postpartum depression, are indeed serious matters.

"Whenever you mention your wife, you become quite attentive, talking about her makes you animated." Tian Yu pointed out.

Liu Banxia felt a bit shy, the conversation today indeed veered off course.

After pondering for a while, "What do you reckon about my situation then? Is it due to work pressure or life pressure?"

"Hmm..., I don't think it's work pressure because you seem very confident about your medical skills." Tian Yu replied.

"There is some life pressure, but it's mostly from your concern for your wife, which can be adjusted. Sometimes, just seeing your wife smile more can be reassuring."

"It seems to me you're overly ambitious in your career. Giving yourself psychological hints, this deputy director position adds some stress."

"It doesn't mean you're unqualified, just that in your heart you have goals to achieve. This deputy director role needs to be done well, even outstandingly."

"That's where the stress lies, as often the things we least want to acknowledge and give importance to are the things we care about the most."

"Take for instance seeing someone flaunt a luxury car on the street, we may say 'it's not a big deal.' Yet, our subconscious might think 'wouldn't it be nice to afford one if I had the money?'"

"These are quite normal thoughts, they're the same reason we work hard; material and spiritual lives are equally important."

"So you're saying I'm overly concerned about being deputy director? Wanting to excel in this position?" Liu Banxia asked, frowning.

"I need to correct you on that point." Tian Yu said.

"Actually, what's outstanding and more outstanding is just expression. What is outstanding, and what is more outstanding? It's often hard to define."

"Especially within your hospital system, aiming for more outstanding means handling matters beyond one's jurisdiction, which might spark conflicts, right?"

Liu Banxia thought carefully, realizing that might be true.

Being a doctor, curing patients is the primary job, that's the work expected. Doing well is competent, failing is dereliction.

The deputy director has a designated scope of work, fulfilling those targets is merely completing what's required of the role.

Thinking more thoroughly, Liu Banxia laughed, gave a thumbs up, "Amazing, really amazing. Going in circles, still revolved around dissecting me."

"Even though you praise me, I'll continue to correct." Tian Yu laughed too.

"Many things are interconnected, with both good and bad effects. You love your wife, who has some emotional fluctuations now, making you concerned."

"Regarding work, you want to repay the extraordinary promotion, subconsciously aiming to excel."

"However, you are also rational, knowing you can't be more outstanding. Future work will have respective divisions, which is contradictory."

"Realizing the difficulty in this proposition relaxes you. Often, the obstacles we face are self-imposed. Even without me, once you take the role, you'll gradually grasp it."

"I've truly gained a lot. If I had to think it over myself, I wouldn't know how long it would take." Liu Banxia shook his head.

"My agitation might affect those around me. I have duties as deputy director and seeing patients."

"Additionally, I wish to expand into fields like orthopedics and pediatric surgery. These challenging fields deter action now, though they are my aspirations."

"It's worth trying, surgical knowledge often connects across areas." Tian Yu advised.

"I said, you're logical when evaluating things. Since you have these thoughts, it means they're well-considered and decided."

"If lacking confidence and assurance, such thoughts wouldn't surface. Like this deputy director role; you have ample confidence, hence subconsciously aim to excel."

"I still feel impulsive sometimes." Liu Banxia said, sheepishly.

Tian Yu smiled and shook his head, "Perhaps previous you was impulsive, current you rarely is. Without rational thinking, mistakes in patient visits would happen easily."

"Everyone progresses through their growth phases, gaining wisdom experientially. Over-calmness may bring strides in medicine, but life would be chaotic."

"Rationality and emotion aren't opposites. Similarly, work and life aren't entirely opposed. Fulfilled family lives elevate work efficiency."

"That's very true. Relaxed play yesterday allowed me laser focus in surgery today. Unlike the prior day's irritations when seeing you." Liu Banxia agreed.

"So now, am I without issues? I believe the hospital leadership perceives it. Perhaps colleagues and students, too, sensed it, becoming affected."

"There weren't any issues, just an emotional fluctuation period." Tian Yu noted.

"Thank you." Liu Banxia said, sincerely.

"Thanking isn't enough. Refer more clients to me in the future. I don't have patients, only clients." Tian Yu said.

"Count on it, surely no problem. I hold your card. Soon someone might call, a high-quality client, indeed." Liu Banxia assured.

"Haha, I will be very grateful. Perhaps next month I'll grant myself more days off to balance work and life." Tian Yu laughed.

"Now I feel like buying Lego, enjoying them with clients. Looks fun. Don't think we're rigid psychologists lounging with notepads recording."

"Occasional notes are necessary but only for overly troubled minds. Mainly, building a relaxed, cozy environment facilitates proper communication."

Startled, Liu Banxia truly entertained such thoughts, curious if coincidental or Tian Yu discerned it.

"Logic applies universally. During patient visits, you employ subtle tactics for diagnosis too?" Tian Yu questioned.

Liu Banxia nodded. "I must go, buy toys, and play with the wife."

After that, Liu Banxia dashed out.

Tian Yu shook his head in resignation, contemplating how hard to please Liu Banxia was.